A safe space for TLQ's, TGQ's, and their allies.
A safe space for TLQ's, TGQ's, and their allies.
Hello, my name is Richard Johnson, and I am the founder of the TLQ movement. I lived in the closet my entire life, knowing that society was not ready to accept me for who I am. Now in 2023, well into my 50’s, I am finally risking my family, friends and career to come out as TLQ.
What is TLQ? TLQ is part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community. Our members are all Transgender, Lesbian, and Queer (GenderQueer/GenderFluid).
TLQ members are:
In the end, even after coming out, most people see me as a straight, CIS gendered male, who likes to have heterosexual sex with women – all of which is extremely hurtful. To most people stuck in traditional gender roles and biases, I may look and sound like a normal straight CIS gendered male, but nothing could be further from the truth.
Accepting myself for who I am was difficult. Gaining acceptance from society has been even harder. I have heard many hateful things said about me. I am routinely misgendered. Some people, speaking from platforms of great privilege, like LGBTQIA2S+ community members who only identify with one letter in our alliance, have dared to say that I am not sincere in my beliefs. Some even imply that the TLQ classification should not be a protected class. Imagine that in our day and time, people like me suffering under the boot of society’s expectations and unenlightened prejudices should lack the modern protections our small minority so clearly deserves.
I encourage everyone else who might be suffering as I have to raise up, together, and announce your status to the world.
I really enjoy yoga, it provides great recovery from the extensive weight training that I do. I tore a muscle in my shoulder bench pressing 350lbs and yoga has helped significantly with my recovery.
I used to have to use the men’s changing room at my local yoga studio, which made me feel terrible about myself as it is not in keeping w
I really enjoy yoga, it provides great recovery from the extensive weight training that I do. I tore a muscle in my shoulder bench pressing 350lbs and yoga has helped significantly with my recovery.
I used to have to use the men’s changing room at my local yoga studio, which made me feel terrible about myself as it is not in keeping with my true gender identity. I’d watch the Lululemon-clad 100lb women bounce into their women-only locker room after each class and I couldn’t help but feel excluded and made to feel as a stranger in my own body.
Now all 6’4”, 240lbs of me is welcome into the women’s changing room. There were some questions at first, but upon presentation of my TLQ membership, and me explaining the hurtful nature of their questioning, I have been showering with the young female yoga students I identify with, at least at my more gender fluid times.
–Dave, Los Angeles, CA
I was having a hard time finding a job when I was still in the closet and presenting as a white, CIS gendered, straight male. Ever since I came out of the closet as TLQ I have had a huge increase in callbacks for every job I’ve applied to. I’ve now been at the same company for over a year and have advanced more rapidly here than anywhere else.
My TLQ status actually helps the company with their DEI scores, as they now have a Transgender, Lesbian and a Queer on staff with just one hire. So far I’ve always been feeling especially gender fluid on the day/minute of the survey, so they have an extra female, and one less male, too.
–Fred, Silicon Valley, CA
Q: Is this a joke?
A: This question in and of itself is a homophobic and transphobic attack. Can you imagine if a lesbian woman came out of the closet and was met with the same question? Please check your privilege. These are our sincerely held beliefs, we ask that you do not trivialize them with humor.
Q: How can I help?
1. Bring aw
Q: Is this a joke?
A: This question in and of itself is a homophobic and transphobic attack. Can you imagine if a lesbian woman came out of the closet and was met with the same question? Please check your privilege. These are our sincerely held beliefs, we ask that you do not trivialize them with humor.
Q: How can I help?
1. Bring awareness! Please share this page on your social media accounts.
2. There is also a
donate button below.
3. Soon you will be able to show your pride and/or support with a TLQ t-shirt of coffee mug.
4. Officially join as TLQ, TGQ or as an ally with your e-mail at the bottom of this page.
Q: Can this get me in trouble?
A: LGBT employment discrimination in the United States is illegal under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964; employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity is encompassed by the law's prohibition of employment discrimination on the basis of sex.
If you were to be fired for being TLQ, you might have an excellent lawsuit. We are not lawyers and this is not legal advice, but look at these references:
Over a half century since the first “Gay Liberation Day March” of 1970, TLQ persons are still not accepted. Fifty years later, the life of a TLQ person is still sadly crippled by the manacles of oppression and the chains of discrimination. Fifty years later, the TLQ person lives on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean
Over a half century since the first “Gay Liberation Day March” of 1970, TLQ persons are still not accepted. Fifty years later, the life of a TLQ person is still sadly crippled by the manacles of oppression and the chains of discrimination. Fifty years later, the TLQ person lives on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of social prosperity and acceptance. Fifty years later the TLQ person is still languished in the corners of the LGBTQISSA+ community and finds himself in exile in his own land. The TLQ is still not free.
Now is the time to rise from the dark and desolate valley of discrimination to the sunlit path of justice. We will not be satisfied until social justice rolls down like waters, and righteousness like a mighty stream.
We all strive for a day when every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight.
When the architects of our republic wrote the magnificent words of the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence, they were signing a promissory note to which every American was to fall heir. This note was a promise that all men — yes, TLQ men as well as CIS gendered heterosexual men
— would be guaranteed the unalienable rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
If America is to be made a great nation again, this must become true. And so let freedom ring from the recently emancipated servers of Twitter. Let freedom ring from the platitudinous posts of Facebook. Let freedom ring from the echoing chambers on Reddit. Let freedom ring from the peace-sign waving instahoes of Instagram. Let freedom ring from the time wasting videos of TikTok. Let freedom ring from the demonetized videos on YouTube. But not only that, let freedom ring from the endless HR meetings. Let freedom ring from the mandatory social justice classes at work. Let freedom ring from every gender studies department. From every website and employment policy and legislative body, let freedom ring.
Your support and contributions will enable us to meet our goals and fund our mission. We believe that millions of other people that society currently misidentifies as CIS gendered straight men are actually TLQ. Likewise for our TGQ sisters.
We want all TLQ/TGQ to feel free to come out.
In my business and career TLQ often present as male for all the societal advantages we know and understand with the inherent pro-male biases in business. We’d all rather get paid a dollar than 87 cents for the same job. However, given the vulnerable nature of being Trans, Lesbian and Queer, it is of utmost importance to bring awareness and visibility to our people — as such, on all DEI forms and other related surveys it is morally imperative of our class of people to bring representation to all disadvantaged groups that apply to us, including female, at least until such time that we achieve equal status in society.
Even though TLQ are women, we generally present as male and use he/him pronouns. This means:
In solidarity with the oppressed gender, we strongly feel it is the best keeping of our gender identity to check the “female” box on all surveys, DEI forms, etc.
We feel a close alliance with our sister group.
TGQ members are:
Has society always treated you as a CIS gendered straight female? You might actually be TGQ. We hope that you will come out of the closet and join us.
Join the TLQ Movement, either as TLQ, TGQ, or as an ally.
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